You get on Instagram and see your friend’s picture of her and her boyfriend. They look happy. She’s beautiful, he’s handsome. Everything looks perfect in their world (especially with their filter that practically eliminates any hint of facial blemish). You start to question yourself. Why aren’t I happy like that? Why does she have a boyfriend and I don’t? OR Why isn’t my boyfriend/husband and I always like that? How is she so pretty? Why can’t I find a guy like that? Am I not pretty enough? I need to be prettier like her. How is she so skinny? Wow, I need to lose weight. Oh my goodness. My life is a disaster. I am not normal. I am not happy enough like her.
I admit, I have gone through many questions like this myself. I begin to question all that I am, all that I do, and all that I’m worth. I begin to wonder why my life doesn’t match that of my friends on social media. They all have perfect lives.
In reality, they aren’t leading perfect lives. Behind that picture is a relationship that is falling apart. They are barely holding on, waiting out just one more picture that captures their facade of happiness. She is struggling with self esteem and he is sick of having to share every moment of their life on Instagram.
If only she posted the real struggles she was going through in life. A picture of the last fight she and her boyfriend (or husband) had. A picture of her sobbing in her bed late at night, crying out to God to help her in the midst of her trial. A picture of her with her face on the ground with #contemplatingsuicide in the description.
No one does this. No one posts their worst days on Instagram or Facebook or any other social media outlet. Everything they post is double checked before they send it out to everyone. Is it funny enough? Pretty enough? Do I need a filter? The goal is to make themselves look as happy as they can possibly be without giving away their lie.
The way we view people is greatly influenced by social media. We think everyone is happy all the time and we find there is something wrong with ourselves. Ladies, your self-worth should not be measured by how happy you are compared to your social media friends. STOP questioning everything about yourself and realize that THEY are just like you: sinners crumbling in a fallen world. Take the focus off of YOURSELF and put it on someone who truly lived a perfect, holy life. Someone who won’t judge you on how bad your picture looked on Instagram. Someone who will love you, flaws and all. Someone who died and suffered for your ugly heart. Look to JESUS CHRIST.
“12 Not that I have already obtained all this, or have already arrived at my goal, but I press on to take hold of that for which Christ Jesus took hold of me. 13 Brothers and sisters, I do not consider myself yet to have taken hold of it. But one thing I do: Forgetting what is behind and straining toward what is ahead, 14 I press on toward the goal to win the prize for which God has called me heavenward in Christ Jesus.”
If you are looking at YOURSELF, all you will find is imperfection, failure, and darkness. Your life will not be happy at all times. You will not always have a perfect relationship with others like it seems there is on social media. You CANNOT rely on the social media fantasy as your reality. You MUST look to CHRIST. Stop looking at yourself, you are nothing, worthless. But with Christ you are made whole, saved, righteous, and worthy of His grace. Without Christ, you are nothing, but with Him you will find true joy that is real and that will far exceed the deceitful happiness on Facebook, Instagram, or Snapchat!
Look to Him and press on towards the goal of salvation!